February 13, 2005

A sock in the gut

I just returned home from North Carolina visiting my mother and family (more on that in a different post), and naturally one of the first things I did was check my email. In my inbox was a note from an ex of mine, and it included pictures of the girl he has just started dating. We split quite awhile ago, and I obviously have since moved on (Or so I thought apparently), but that email just hit hard. I don't know why, as I don't have a problem usually with this sort of thing. One of my exes is dating my best friend and I couldn't be happier for them, another is reuniting with his estranged wife, and again, I am very happy for him. Mind you I did care for both of these guys and others I have dated that I have seen move on, some more so then some, but either way, why did this hit me so hard? All I have to say now is OUCH, that hurt and I don't know why.

6 comments:

kathianne said...

Can't be sure, but maybe because you are newly home and recovering? Who needs 'more change', even if it isn't yours? My guess is this is nothing a date won't help.

Glad you are home.

Garrison Steelle said...

I can think of several reasons, Lizzie. All perfectly normal. I think all of them come down to the feeling that your not 100% satisfied with where your own life is going right now.

-G

JUST A MOM said...

I go with the whole CHANGE thing. This is just one more of them. You have had a lot of that. Give your self time.

Rosemary said...

Hi Sarge. Could it be the pic? It's so impersonal! Good thing you got rid of him. He obviously didn't take into consideration your feelings. He didn't need to rock the boat. I agree with the other 3 posts. You should take some time to settle back in, now that you're not in a war zone. Remember, it's okay to feel however you feel. You can always talk to someone at camp (that's what phones are for!) You take good care of your wrist and the rest of you! :) Talk to ya later.

AirborneVet said...

This is mainly for the comment posted by Rosemary-

I happen to know both SgtLizzie and the ex she refers to in this post. Pain goes both ways. This ex didn't particularly enjoy being notified of SgtLizzie's new relationship via this blog either. Both of these folks happen to be really nice and wonderful people and I am sure they will continue their friendship after the healing is done.

lost soul said...

Lizzie, this is a pretty normal reaction to past loves. Trust me when I say that. With each relationship that we have there is something special or unique that we will always cherish. Knowing that a uniqueness like that is being shared with someone other than you might be the part that "socks you in the gut". We all have days like that. Some days MORE than others. :)